Divorce is never easy, even if it is an amicable split. No matter the circumstance, the well-being of your children should be at the forefront of every decision. Learn how to avoid doing irreparable damage to your children with these legal strategies from our team of divorce experts at Friedman & Friedman PLLC, Attorneys at Law
High Conflict Divorce
Most parents will agree that children need to feel supported and loved. Divorce can throw off a child’s sense of safety and stability. Consequently, even the easiest divorce can take its toll on your children. Avoid the following behaviors when divorcing with children:
- Making your child feel guilty for loving the other parent
- Being the weekend-fun parent
- Telling your child everything
- Trashing the other parent’s personality in front of the child
- Asking your child for unnecessary information about the other parent
- Forcing your child to choose between the two of you
- Arguing in front of them
If your spouse engages in these strategies, consult with an attorney to find a path forward through an initial agreement.
How to Divorce the Right Way
Although you can’t change what happened during your marriage, you can change how your children are impacted. Mental health experts have touted the benefits of a healthy co-parenting relationship for decades. That’s why, when children are around, it’s always best to keep things cordial and calm.
Create an agreement or parenting plan to find ways to manage your feelings. If there’s abuse in any form involving your children, be sure to check with an attorney to go over your options, including filing for sole custody.
What to Watch For
Most children exhibit telltale signs of how they are handling the split from your spouse. They may cling to you out of fear of abandonment, or they may feel confused about what’s happening. If you notice children acting out, it’s essential to watch for changes that indicate emotional stress, trauma, abuse, or depression, including:
- Headaches
- Stomach pain
- Slipping grades
- Misbehavior
- Changes in eating habits
Consider Therapy
It’s said that everyone can benefit from therapy. Your children are no exception. Consider finding a child and family therapist to aid your child in handling the transition. Depending upon the circumstances of your family unit, you may need help from an experienced divorce lawyer on determining who will pay for counseling services and other logistics, such as:
- Creating treatment plans if necessary
- Confidentiality
- Determining your child’s needs
- Choosing a therapist
- Transportation
At Friedman & Friedman PLLC, Attorneys at Law, we believe in prioritizing your children’s needs and best interests through each step of divorce. Our compassionate team is ready to help you protect the well-being of your children. Give us a call today at (516) 688-0088 to schedule a consultation with our attorneys.